Long Distance Relationship
Mr. X working with a software company in Delhi, and Mrs. X also working with a software company but in Chennai, leading a happy life and enjoying their marriage.
Now a days as both male and female are working Long Distance Marriages are getting common these days.
There are numerous families where husband and wife both work in distant cities leading their life happily. There are certain factors which leads you to such a decision and money is one of the most important factor.
When both husband and wife work they are able to provide better materialistic facilities to the family as they will be earning a good sum of money in total, and which leads to a better standard of living for the whole family and even a secured future.
Although money is the major but one cant ignore the sense of personal achievement. in ancient time men were known to go out of the home and work for the family and brought back the means of living but that was the male driven society, now days have changed and being into job give a satisfaction to female of being independent and backing their family with better means of living.
not even for female, as money worked for both, this factor also work for men too. If being apart they are getting some really good opportunity in their professional life then living apart for some years is not a bad idea.
It also provides independent financial choices as when both will be working they can take their own decision for money or can come to better financial decision taken together.
Although spouse will not b present every time but it doesnt matter that they should ruin their relation because of these physical distances, foremost they should trust each other. Do not assume that infedility will occur because of your physical seperation.
Distances will not matter if both trust each other. One should have faith and respect for their partner. Distrust can lead to mental stress. and could be possible even in normal marriages if understanding, trust, commitment and faith is not there. Being commited to each other and truely believing marriage commitment is vital. A long distance marriage will fail if there is a lack of trust between partners.
Most long distance marriages co not have to deal with this heartache beceuse of love and commitment the spouses feel for each other. Since they cant read one other's nonverbal communiction they use symbols or words to describe their thoughts.
They often visit each other, Communicate, and do thngs like watching a TV show or movie simultaneously, reading certain books and discussing, linstning to tha same song, or star gaze, etc to feel the presence.
One should set up "rules" about frequency of communication and visits and stick to them.
Although instead of working in different cites one should try to make it in the same city but if you are getting some good opportunity then being apart for yera or two is not that bad to go for. The only thing is that partners should understand each other's professional need as well and shouuld support each other well in all Ups n Downs.
Ending it here with some of the Tips and Warnings for such kind of a relation but the only tip is the trust and commitment that you feel for eatch other.
Tips
Warnings
Now a days as both male and female are working Long Distance Marriages are getting common these days.
There are numerous families where husband and wife both work in distant cities leading their life happily. There are certain factors which leads you to such a decision and money is one of the most important factor.
When both husband and wife work they are able to provide better materialistic facilities to the family as they will be earning a good sum of money in total, and which leads to a better standard of living for the whole family and even a secured future.
Although money is the major but one cant ignore the sense of personal achievement. in ancient time men were known to go out of the home and work for the family and brought back the means of living but that was the male driven society, now days have changed and being into job give a satisfaction to female of being independent and backing their family with better means of living.
not even for female, as money worked for both, this factor also work for men too. If being apart they are getting some really good opportunity in their professional life then living apart for some years is not a bad idea.
It also provides independent financial choices as when both will be working they can take their own decision for money or can come to better financial decision taken together.
Although spouse will not b present every time but it doesnt matter that they should ruin their relation because of these physical distances, foremost they should trust each other. Do not assume that infedility will occur because of your physical seperation.
Distances will not matter if both trust each other. One should have faith and respect for their partner. Distrust can lead to mental stress. and could be possible even in normal marriages if understanding, trust, commitment and faith is not there. Being commited to each other and truely believing marriage commitment is vital. A long distance marriage will fail if there is a lack of trust between partners.
Most long distance marriages co not have to deal with this heartache beceuse of love and commitment the spouses feel for each other. Since they cant read one other's nonverbal communiction they use symbols or words to describe their thoughts.
They often visit each other, Communicate, and do thngs like watching a TV show or movie simultaneously, reading certain books and discussing, linstning to tha same song, or star gaze, etc to feel the presence.
One should set up "rules" about frequency of communication and visits and stick to them.
Although instead of working in different cites one should try to make it in the same city but if you are getting some good opportunity then being apart for yera or two is not that bad to go for. The only thing is that partners should understand each other's professional need as well and shouuld support each other well in all Ups n Downs.
Ending it here with some of the Tips and Warnings for such kind of a relation but the only tip is the trust and commitment that you feel for eatch other.
Tips
- Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
- A long distance relationship is no different from a proximal relationship in that they both require a great deal of work, excellent communication, patience, sacrifice and understanding.
- Sometimes phone/email/IM communication can get bland... don't forget there are other ways to interact! Utilize the internet and find things you both can do together. It takes the pressure off constant talking, and can be fun.
- One of the hardest parts of a long distance relationship is connecting when one person gets busier than the other. If this happens in a relationship it is important to maintain communication. If you are the busy person, try to warn your partner ahead of time that you will be working many hours and may have limited time. If you are the not-as-busy person, take advantage of the time by picking up a new hobby, getting in shape, reading a new book, etc. Flexibility is very important.
- It helps to have a solid time in the future for when the long distance part of the relationship will end, no matter the time length. Without it, the relationship can begin to mold into something that is always distant - even with great communication. With it, each person can see the point at which the distance will end and work harder to keep emotions readily available.
- When talking to your partner, take note of things they enjoy the most (hobbies, day-to-day activities, etc.), and do a little research on it so you have more to do when you see them next. For example: If your partner likes to dance, find the location of different clubs where you will see them next. If you don't know how to dance, take lessons and you will impress them by your willingness to make an effort on their behalf.
- Buy a game that you can play together over the internet, such as a MMORPG (massively multi-player online role playing game). You will be able to chat while playing and it will give a greater feeling of togetherness.
- Mail each other scented clothes.(Or even clothes smelling of your sweat - pheromones are a great way to establish intimate contact.)
- Send each other spontaneous ecards.
- Make a creative countdown and mail it to your partner to enjoy until you see each other next. For example, create a photo calendar, with something you add for each day to describe what you love about them.
- Do not set unreasonable expectations for your visit and/or future plans. Fantasizing about the visit is fine, but not out loud verbally or by email to your partner. Instead, enjoy the excitement of the surprises to come.
- Consider the fact that living far apart gives you both a chance to grow as individuals. Some couples break up to "find themselves", but in a long distance relationship you both have enough space to do your own things and still have a connection.
Don't be afraid to talk about the "boring" parts of your day. The trickier, almost subconscious part is maintaining the feeling of being intermingled in your partner's life, a state the experts often refer to as "interrelatedness."
Warnings
- Remember, every kind of relationship takes hard work and dedication to your loved one or partner, whether it's long distance or proximal. If you and your partner are willing to take these steps, then expect bumps and turns in the road. These bumps and turns will only help contribute towards a relationship.
- Long distance relationships can and will test you and your partner; you need to trust him/her entirely as paranoia can play a major part in the demise of your relationship. Also, these kinds of relationships can bring a lot of disappointment and heartache--depending on the time you spend away from each other it is VERY important that if you want this relationship to work you must make a great effort not to drift apart
- Long distance relationships are difficult, as you are emotionally attached to a person you cannot touch or comfort and this can hurt your heart and wreak havoc with your emotions. The only way to make these relationships work is if you and your partner honestly believe you will be able to survive without each other for a considerable amount of time without the need or desire to be with someone else.
